I keep hearing people say “Just forget about it & move on”
Pffft trust me if I could I would. If someone could give me a pill to take away the 10+ years of bad memories Id take it right now & move on. Unfortunately I cant do that as there isn’t a pill like that.
CPTSD is a memory based illness, the reason we are how we are is because of past experience that have made us this way. We would like nothing more than those horrible memories to disappear from our minds so we can live a normal life.
The other one that really annoys me is “Just stop thinking about it” Again Id love to stop thinking about it but when we are triggered constantly & having flashbacks that are totally out of our control, its something that we cant do.
People don’t realise just how hard everyday life is for someone with PTSD as they have never experienced it & hopefully never will. I wouldn’t wish this on my worse enemy. Well I lie Id love for my abuser to go through it so they can feel what they has done to me.
Speaking of the abusers. I’ve read things saying “You need to forgive your abuser before you can move on” Bullshit! I will never forgive them for what they did to me. I am living a life sentence for what they did to me while they are living a guilt free normal life. I will never ever forgive them, never!
Is there anything else that people say to you that annoy you?
Think positive. Oh gee. I never thought of that.
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It’s definitely not as easy as that is it?
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We don’t forgive drug dealers, burglars or violent thugs, the ‘pressure to forgive’ often seems to be about people’s inability to accept that such awful things do happen, and that they are not one-off incidents by strangers. I blogged about this bizarre pressure to forgive recently https://traumadissociation.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/pressure-to-forgive/comment-page-1/
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