Iv read & been told that being honest with your friends is the best option when you aren’t doing the best.
So lately Iv been completely honestly with them & told them how I’m really doing. It’s meant to be the best thing for both of us in the friendship.
Unfortunately that hasn’t been the case for me at all. Iv been honest & everyone seemed to disappear quietly. Less calls & texts then simply no contact at all.
I need my friends now more than ever but they are no where to be seen. It’s heartbreaking.
I’m the type of person who’s always there for my friends no matter what so now that I’m in desperate need for them no one is there.
I’m starting to think that it was the worst mistake being honest with them. I should have kept my mouth shut & just pretended that everything was fine, that way I’d still have people around.
I know how hard it must be to hear that your friend is going through hell but it’s even harder to walk away & leave them.
I’m in my 30s now so the chances of making new friends isn’t really going to happen. Especially since I’m not even leaving the house these days.
Thankfully I have my husband who is also my best friend but sometimes you really need other friends to talk to about random things.
Have you experienced the same thing? What did you do?
▪️ Be kind to yourself.
▪️ Stop being so hard on yourself.
▪️ Get rid of all the one sided friendships. Friendships are meant to be 50/50. You don’t need people like that in your life.
▪️ Do something nice for you & only you once a week.
▪️ Listen to yourself. If you don’t want to do something then don’t do it. Your gut instinct is usually 100% right
▪️ Get enough sleep & rest.
▪️ Get the help you need. Find a therapist or doctor so you can start getting the help you desperately need.
▪️ Don’t worry about what other people think. They wouldn’t last an hour with what we go through.
▪️ If you’re run down then take some time out & let yourself recover. Don’t burn the candle at both ends.
▪️ Last but certainly not least
Look after number one, YOU!
Happy New Year. I hope 2015 brings you peace, joy & closure.
May 2015 bring you closure & happiness.